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The friends that come easily is the friendships that has the potential to last for a lifetime.

Whether its the test of the hourglass, trial and error, adventure or triumph, it all leads to a fact of which that humans need friendships to feel less lonely.

As a fellow struggling high schooler myself, I’ve heard a lot of stories from various friends mentioning the fact that they quote on quote “broke up” with their best friends and ran through their 3-hour yapping routine about sad they are.

It’s a common issue in our age, and it can be summarised in two words: Growing Up.

Let me tell you a story. Let’s call my friend, Adam. Well, Adam had a close friend group, and they vowed to be best friends forever. However, after being separated into different classes, they just ended their friendship, stating that “our classes don’t clash, we shouldn’t be friends anymore.”

A childish story, but this case is too common, within all genders. We’re still young, and we’re still growing. Sometimes we can get infatuated by the fact that when you have a group of friends, you want to hold on to them forever.

But.. But.. But.. That’s half-dating, that is not friendship.

Friendships are spontaneous, and should not need need maximum effort to manipulate, or a less harsh word, maintain at a young age.

Sometimes things just click, and don’t feel forced.

Recently, I’ve experienced this myself. After time and time, hoping that I would have the ideal friend group with people in my living community, it didn’t happen. Instead, when I was isolated for two months (had to move out for renovations purposes), I focused on myself, the living experiences, every gym session, every run, every writing I composed, and most importantly with my family. Everything suddenly clicked.

I finally found the friends I wanted, and it didn’t take any effort like before. It all started with a question, “You wanna run sometime?” or “Wanna go out for dinner?”.

No effort required. Just a question. Simple but effective, all of my friendships now just naturally come. I don’t know if I had thought through this issue, since I am still young, but here’s my immature view of friendship:

Friendships is just a matter of accompaniment. It’s one of the side products generated from the human adventure that the human self will treasure.

But no matter what happens, focusing on the actual life is most important, and is what will bring fulfilment in the long run.