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There’s a creator who goes around New York City and asks people what makes them so confident? Some may say their outlook, their skills, their preparation.

I’ve always struggled with confidence, and it has been a major pillar of growth I’ve experienced. For the longest time I’ve been doing everything for others, caring what other people think about me, with people pointing it out.

For the longest time I’ve seen more and more friends come up to me and say I’m the friend that cares about other people’s outlook the most, and they think I want to create an image for people to be deceived. Is it really? Instagram picture perfect stories, trying to be performative day by day, shaping an image that isn’t me, or just trying to prove the most picture perfect version of myself to others. But people can see through these lies.

I just had a 2 hour long conversation with my very talented friend, and his confidence comes from validation, and knowing that he’s capable of leading.

And in another conversation with my dad, he told me that his confidence comes from trusting his preparation, and knowing that with his preparation he can tackle all things.

What is confidence exactly? I’m still figuring it out day by day. But what I know from now, it’s doing everything for myself for once. And trusting myself that with my hard work, everything will work out.